Which marriage are we talking about? Part III

Guntars Baikovs
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We can see that both these models are deficient, but also contain something good:
 
The so-called ‘traditional’ model is honest about admitting the differences, but it contains that principle of the dominance of the strongest, and that can’t be good for everyone.

The so-called ‘modern’ model strives for the ideal of equality (an ideal, by the way, that it inherited from Christianity), but at the same time denies biological reality and the differences between the sexes, and therefore is tries to live in an illusion.

When we set both side by side it is easier to see the dynamics at play. We can see that neither is good and that both are set up for failure. 
The traditional model with its dominion of the strongest breeds rebellion against it and prepares the soil for the modern.

The modern model with its denial of deep biological differences and therefore different needs and expectations goes against the grain of reality and therefore is and feels unnatural. It does not give to either sex – men or women – what they essentially long for.

Both are deficient in their very foundations, and therefore are predictably not too good for either men or women, and not too wise. That doesn’t mean that people can’t live well in those imperfect models. They can, but that is because we usually don’t live them out according exactly according to theory. By God’s grace, I guess.

What can we do? Is there any alternative? Yes, there is: the most beautiful, most satisfying one. What we are going to teach you in this course is the third model. This is the Biblical model, which is the good and wise design of God the Creator.

Remarkably, it has all the pros from the first two and none of their cons. It recognizes, encourages and celebrates the difference of both sexes – our different longing and priorities and gifts – and puts them to good use. At the same time, it also provides for perfect equality and harmony in our relationships.

It ticks all the boxes.
It works perfectly for both sexes.
It gives to both spouses exactly what they long for.
It is good and wise, and it makes me wonder – why we don’t hear about it more often.

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